Wednesday, February 22, 2006

So, what's the deal with...

I notice there are times, I will have the very last comment left on someone's blog.

What's the deal with that?

Is it because my comment is so brilliant, no one can follow it up?

Have I stopped people dead in their tracks, because what I've said makes no sense?

Have I offended the sensibilities of the 25 other commentors?

No, really, I want to know. This is a bizarre phenomenon. And it's happened too many times to just be a coincidence.

Now, it's no secret that I think I'm hysterical. (Remember, if I'm going to spend time here inside my head, I may as well enjoy it). So, if the problem is that no one can keep up with my sense of humor, this I can understand.

But more brilliant than the other commentors? C'mon...even I know that's not true.

Making no sense to the other commentors? Well, yeah, that's a good possibility.

And what's the deal with commenting for the first time on someone's blog and getting no response? Not even a "hey", or "hi", or "welcome", or "my God, you're sick!"

NOTHING, NADA, BUPKIS. This has happened to me more times than I care to mention. Do I take it personally? Should I take it personally? What is the protocol for responding to new commentors?

Once in a while, a commentor comes along that is completely inappropriate, and then you have a whole other problem on your hands. Do you acknowledge that person? Do you encourage them? Do you delete them?

I think a blog is very personal; a part of you; an extension of you, if you will. It can be very violating when someone attacks you on your own blog.

I won't stand for it. I wouldn't stand for it in person, and won't stand for it on my blog.
Even though it's public, it is still MINE.

So, please, comment...say your peace, be funny, witty, intelligent, whatever. But if you can't be nice...then be prepared to be deleted.

And hey, if it makes you feel any better...If you're the last comment here, it probably means you were brilliant!

29 comments:

torontopearl said...

I suffer from a severe problem, Dr. Crusin-Mom. I like to be both the FIRST and LAST commenter on a post. What's up with that?

But "nasty" is not in my vocabulary, at least not my blog vocabulary. *If* I were nasty -- fat chance of that! -- I give you my blessings to delete my comments. I give my blessings for you to delete any and all nasty, uncalled-for and inappropriate comments on your posts, for that matter. It's *your* backyard after all...we're only here to play in it.

Sweettooth120 said...

There are times, as the host, to not always have to have the last word, especially when the last person who just commented did say something very witty or brilliant, BUT, I think it's very rude to continually ignore a person's comments if they not being rude or inappropriate.

There are many bloggers who I like to read, but have stopped or have not read that often anymore, for that reason. It's just makes you feel like an unwelcome guest.

Sweettooth120 said...

Hey Pearl, you changed your picture.

torontopearl said...

ST, you're right re. ignoring people's comments being rude. I sometimes just plain forget to comment, so caught up am I just in the fact that I got comments.

And yes, I changed the pic. I was gonna back off blogging, so I had to find something related to capture my interest. You think it works with my blog's name?

Ezzie said...

It happens to me all the time! Of course, I'm usually reading a day or so behind...

I sometimes don't respond to follow-up comments, because there's simply nothing to say. If it's a new commenter, I try to thank them for coming. Certain posts, I won't respond for a bit as I want to hear more people's thoughts before getting involved in the discussion myself. Then there's simply the comments I don't see: Posts that are a few days old generally get relegated to a place where I don't see them, and the Blogger option to forward comments only forwards some of them.

Sweettooth120 said...

Pearl, you don't usually ignore people's comments. I think Ezzie is correct in the reasons he gave why people may not always respond. I do the same thing.

But what I am referring to are people who will either respond to almost everyone else on the page, or totally ignores you when you are either the only one or one of a few, who commented on their post.

I guess calling it rude is a little harsh, since it's the individual's prerogative to do so, but it sure doesn't make someone feel welcome.

Wendy said...

I know! What is commenting protocol? Ms. Manners didn't write anything about this shit! Well, for the inappropriate ones, I try to ignore them. I had one last week that freaked me out a bit. I usually go to the blogs of new folks to see what interests them. I guess I've never said hi or welcome, but that's a great idea. (I usually write a new comment acknowledging, though) I never said welcome to you SO... hi & welcome! Oh, wrong venue, but you get the point. I do like reading your stuff -- so I'm glad we found each other.

And I think you're funny!

cruisin-mom said...

T.P.: commenting first and last just means you're brilliant and witty.

S.T.: I ditto all you say. And what I think is fun about comments, is when the commentors converse with eachother!

Ezzie: I think I may have you hooked over here!

Wendy: you made me feel very welcome...not to worry. Anyway, you are the only other person in the world who liked Joe VS. The Volcano, that makes you great in my book!

Regina Clare Jane said...

I just always try and comment when I visit someone... if they took the time to write up a big, beautiful, funny, brilliant post, then I can take the time to make a short, snazzy comment. That's being appreciative of another's work! Sometimes I'm last because I'm late in getting to the blog- like right now. I do like to be first sometimes too! And I always (I think I can safely say that) respond to first time commenters! If I get a new visitor, I am eternally grateful.

cruisin-mom said...

RCJ: you wrote the book on blogging etiquette...you always have something encouraging to say, thanks!

Regina Clare Jane said...

crusin-mom- thank you! It's nice to be nice!

Ayelet said...

say your peace

Peace! (or did you mean piece?)

My problem is that I comment on several blogs and have to remember which posts to check back on to see if there was any response (which too often there's not :( ). Oh, well. I feel your pain.

cruisin-mom said...

Hi Ayelet: Thanks for stopping by! (how was that? polite?!) I see your name and comments around the blogosphere. I notice you love When Harry Met Sally, too! Thanks for stating your "piece". Hope you come back to see that I answered you!

Another meshugannah mommy said...

Aw, geez. I seem to find myself in a blogging faux-pas. I am sorry if I have offended you. I love to read your blog, and do appreciate the comments you've left on mine.

cruisin-mom said...

Hi AMM: don't worry, no offense taken, I enjoy reading your blog too...and, you have an excuse...After all, you ARE a Meshugannah mommy!

PsychoToddler said...

I'm going to have a sex change operation.

Mirty said...

Um, why is PT going to have a sex-change operation?

cruisin-mom said...

Hi Mirty: WELCOME!!! Hope you'll visit again.

And I must ask along with you...
P.T., explain please

Ezzie said...

I think because he and I were the only men to comment. :)

Hooked? Me? Nooo... ;)

Ger Tzadik said...

I think it helps to be the on the West Coast too. I noticed that the proportion of blog readers in this circle are in the Eastern time zone. If you're a night owl, and in the Pacific time zone, you get last crack at all the blogs pretty much. :)

cruisin-mom said...

Ezzie: I think you're right...isn't it nice to know that you and P.T. are in touch with your feminine side? ;)

Ger T: Welcome! You took my advice on Robert's blog and came by...I have enjoyed reading about your journey, very impressive.

Ger Tzadik said...

Yup. I'm always looking for interesting people to read. I don't follow links to other blogs very often because I'd never get work done, but inevitably I end up missing blogs I would love for a long time until I am prodded to read them.

PsychoToddler said...

Trying to come up with a line to kill the conversation.

Funny, it usually works in real life...

cruisin-mom said...

P.T.: well, seeing as you are the last comment, I think you've succeeded.

Jack's Shack said...

Should I turn out the lights. ;)

cruisin-mom said...

Yeah, and lock the doors.

Jack's Shack said...

Click.

StepIma said...

Guess I shouldn't say anything, then.



bwahahaaaa.

cruisin-mom said...

Hey Jack, thanks...you forgot to set the alarm...one more snuck in...Hi Stepima...welcome!...I didn't want you to be the last!